We can get tantalized by the extreme. Being taken as a sex slave, heavy whippings, blackmail. Total degradation and loss of any semblance of control or choice. Look at our mundane lives and dream of it.
I write erotic fiction of subs forced into doing things they abhor. It can be very stimulating. The reality is sharply different. Take time to think of the things you cannot stand to do and imagine doing nothing but that for days or weeks, longer. Eat nothing but foods you cannot stomach for a few days. Do it to yourself how long can you last when every moment is a torment?
Whipping can be fun for recipient and provider. If you are whipped, how long can you go? What if you cannot safe word to stop? The whipper continues until he is finished, regardless of what you feel, how damaged you are.
Extreme sexual fantasies are not what they appear on screen or page when you are experiencing them. If you want to try one, find an experienced, trustworthy Dom who will show them to you. I have had subs visit with extreme requests, and as we explored them, they discovered the bite of the lash (whatever that lash is) has removed the fantasy and placed the activity somewhere they would never return.
Fantasize away. I do it. I encourage others to with my stories. But when you take your hand off your dick, explore all the downsides. That is where you will find how much of a hold the fantasy has on you.
The threat and use of blackmail is very real. There are Doms who will do it and will expose the sub as punishment. These subs are miserable because they live in constant fear not only of what they must do, must pay, but that failure or whim could expose them anyway.
The internet allows us to be exposed to fetishes we would never dreamed of before. We can discard them or be captivated by them. These are not news reports or documentaries. We could fantasize about killing an annoying co-worker and know we would never act on it. If the fetish draws you, explore it. If the fetish is extreme, do not go so far you cannot get out. How many times has a dish looked tempting, and you spit it out? A fun time turn into a drudgery?
In the positive, easing your way into a new fetish extends the experience. You have so much more to remember and revel in. Not simply the fetish, but each step of the way a new fascination.
If the extreme is for you, it’s for you. If it is not, do know it.
This is a controversial subject and you show wisdom and as usual an elegance and eloquence in raising the issue.
ReplyDeleteFantasy is daughter of creativity and as such I believe should not censored. However, I recently started to read erotic bdsm stories and found subjects and fantasies that start an internal battle. There are cases in which I play the devil's advocate but then find myself ashamed for trying to justify some. It is not the problem of the writer as much as the reader take away message. I fear that the story may inspire evil as well as bring pure entertainment with no real mean to enact it. I think it is a subtle border in a foggy land. It has to be said that mainstream literature is made of unlawful crossing and despicable actions thus just using 2 measuring systems to judge, just because this is merely sexual, is not a logical exercise.
I am a lonely grain of sand in a vast universe, but thus are some of my thoughts.
Thanks for the Master delivery of a tricky subject.
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Guess-the-slave-name *wink wink*